Showing posts with label Community. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Community. Show all posts

Wednesday, March 5, 2025

Why Performance Based Faith is Draining and How to get Rid of it

 


Why Performance-Based Faith Can Be So Draining (And How to Relinquish It)


My dear friends, imagine for a moment that you are on the treadmill of existence, with every step taken merely to demonstrate your adequacy. This quest for acceptance is akin to reaching for a mirage of grace, always just beyond your grasp.


Consider the lyrics of my song:


I was running on the treadmill of life,

Every step just proving I’m not enough.

Reaching for grace like it’s out of my hands,

Trying to earn what was never mine to grasp.


Does this resonate with your experience? The relentless pursuit of feeling worthy, of feeling sufficient in God's eyes? But let us not forget the sweet promise of Jesus:


"Come to me, all of you who are overburdened and overwhelmed, and I will give you rest." - Matthew 11:28 (GW)


This respite is not discovered in our own exertions, but rather in yielding to Him.


The Whirlwind of Self-Reliance

In the tempest of guilt and fear, we flounder,

Our self-reliance like a ship in a stormy sea that falters.


Perhaps you have felt the crushing weight of guilt, the relentless gale of self-condemnation. You endeavor to be good enough, yet every failure seems to pull you further under. This cycle of effort and defeat is as ancient as the dawn of time.


But be of good cheer! For Jesus strides upon the very waves that threaten to engulf us. When Peter took his eyes off the Savior and onto his own capabilities, he began to sink. Yet, when he called out, "Lord, rescue me!" Jesus did so without delay (Matthew 14:30-31).


Such is grace. It is not a trophy for the most diligent, but a lifeline thrown to those who are lost at sea.


Releasing the Grip of Performance-Based Belief

The truth we must embrace is that grace is not something to be merited. It is not the result of our laborious striving. It is a gift, bestowed upon us freely.


"It is by grace that you are saved, through faith, and not by your own efforts. It is God’s gift, not a reward for your good deeds." - Ephesians 2:8 (GW)


Now, how do we disembark from this endless treadmill? How do we release the burden of performance-based faith?


Recognize your acceptance in Christ -

 Understand that in Him, you are already cherished, pardoned, and selected (Ephesians 1:4-5).

Cease your striving and begin to abide - Instead of toiling to deserve grace, find solace in what Jesus has completed (John 15:4-5).

Exchange guilt for faith - 

When guilt whispers of inadequacy, remember Jesus' all-encompassing sacrifice (Romans 8:1).

Allow grace to reshape you -

 True transformation arises not from the dread of disappointing God but from resting in his love and allowing his spirit to mold you (Philippians 2:13).


Grace: A Lifeline, Not a Reward

The more I exerted, the more I was found wanting,

Sinking like a vessel worn and frail in the deep waters of doubt and fear.


If the weight of performance-based faith has been your burden, it is time to set it down. Step off the treadmill, my friend. Halt the futile effort to earn what has already been given without charge. Instead, dive into the welcoming embrace of grace.


Jesus did not summon us to perform. He summoned us to find refuge in his love.


You need not prove your worthiness. In Christ, it is already established.


I encourage you, if you have grappled with the exhaustion of performance-based faith, to share your reflections in the comments below. Moreover, I invite you to listen to my recent composition, which delves deeper into this transformative journey of releasing our grip on striving and welcoming grace.

Tuesday, September 3, 2024

The Power of Shared Experiences


Shared Experiences of the Healing Kind

In a world that lauds the individual spirit, community and shared experiences hold their ground as relentless pockets of strength and healing.

 The old adage, "No man is an island," reverberates with an intrinsic human penchant for connection-finding strength in people who understand and support us.

The Role of Shared Experience in Healing

When we experience hard times, it's natural to feel as though no one else might understand our pain. 

It's times like these that community performs an important role in healing: shared experience can make us more empathetic towards others and relate deeper with them.

 These connections remind us that we are not alone in our struggles and that others have gone through similar challenges and have come through stronger on the other side.

Whether it is through a support group, a circle of friends, or a faith community, being among others that have similar experiences is amazingly therapeutic.

 Research has documented that social support may drastically lower stress, anxiety, and depression, as well as improve physical health. 

The telling and retelling of one's story, hearing of others' stories, can be a potent way of emotional release; such often leads to a sense of comfort and relief.

The Biblical Understanding of Community and Healing

The Bible has several passages teaching about the importance of community. Galatians 6:2 says, "Help carry each other's burdens. 

In this way you will follow Christ's teachings." This verse underlines our responsibility to one another, especially in times of need. 

By sharing our burdens, we lighten not just our load but fulfill a heavenly purpose of mutual support and compassion.

This sense of community-in-fellowship was essential to the faith and practice of the early Christian church. 

Acts 2:44-47, GW reports, "All the believers were united and shared everything they had. With glad and sincere hearts, they broke bread with one another." 

It wasn't just about survival in life; it was about thriving by the love and support they would give one another.

Practical Steps to Cultivate Healing Through Community

1. Join or Form Support Groups

In times of grief, addiction, or any other challenge, joining a support group offers a great avenue to share and listen. 

If there isn't a group that fits your needs, consider starting one.

2. Practice Active Listening: 

When someone shares a fight with you, actively listen to them.

 That means hearing them out with full attention, showing empathy, and not giving advice. 

Sometimes the best way to bring healing is to just listen.

3. Join Community Activities

Those things that help bring the community together, like volunteering, church activities, or even local meetups.

 In such activities, relationships can be built which will provide a reservoir in support of trying times.

4. Reach Out for Help: 

When in a struggle, reach out for help within the setting of your community.

 It is not a sign of weakness but actually a strong thing to do when needed.

Conclusion

Community is the power that can change isolations to connectivity, pain to recovery, and despair to hope.

 In support from people around us and sharing of experiences, we find the strength to heal and help others to do the same.

 As we go through ups and downs of life, let this be a reminder from Ecclesiastes 4:9-10: "Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. 

For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up".

Nurturing our own lives, while creating a ripple into others' lives through processes of healing and hope, begins as we build up and cultivate our communities.hared Experiences of the Healing Kind

In a world that lauds the individual spirit, community and shared experiences hold their ground as relentless pockets of strength and healing. 

The old adage, "No man is an island," reverberates with an intrinsic human penchant for connection-finding strength in people who understand and support us.

The Role of Shared Experience in Healing

When we experience hard times, it's natural to feel as though no one else might understand our pain. 

It's times like these that community performs an important role in healing: shared experience can make us more empathetic towards others and relate deeper with them.

 These connections remind us that we are not alone in our struggles and that others have gone through similar challenges and have come through stronger on the other side.

Whether it is through a support group, a circle of friends, or a faith community, being among others that have similar experiences is amazingly therapeutic.

 Research has documented that social support may drastically lower stress, anxiety, and depression, as well as improve physical health. 

The telling and retelling of one's story, hearing of others' stories, can be a potent way of emotional release; such often leads to a sense of comfort and relief.

The Biblical Understanding of Community and Healing

The Bible has several passages teaching about the importance of community.

 Galatians 6:2 says, "Help carry each other's burdens. In this way you will follow Christ's teachings." 

This verse underlines our responsibility to one another, especially in times of need. 

By sharing our burdens, we lighten not just our load but fulfill a heavenly purpose of mutual support and compassion.

This sense of community-in-fellowship was essential to the faith and practice of the early Christian church. 

Acts 2:44-47, GW reports, "All the believers were united and shared everything they had. With glad and sincere hearts, they broke bread with one another." 

It wasn't just about survival in life; it was about thriving by the love and support they would give one another.

Practical Steps to Cultivate Healing Through Community

1. Join or Form Support Groups

 In times of grief, addiction, or any other challenge, joining a support group offers a great avenue to share and listen. 

If there isn't a group that fits your needs, consider starting one.

2. Practice Active Listening: 
When someone shares a fight with you, actively listen to them. 

That means hearing them out with full attention, showing empathy, and not giving advice. 

Sometimes the best way to bring healing is to just listen.

3. Join Community Activities 

Those things that help bring the community together, like volunteering, church activities, or even local meetups. In such activities, relationships can be built which will provide a reservoir in support of trying times.

4. Reach Out for Help: 

When in a struggle, reach out for help within the setting of your community.

 It is not a sign of weakness but actually a strong thing to do when needed.

Conclusion

Community is the power that can change isolations to connectivity, pain to recovery, and despair to hope. 

In support from people around us and sharing of experiences, we find the strength to heal and help others to do the same. 

As we go through ups and downs of life, let this be a reminder from Ecclesiastes 4:9-10: "Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. 

For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion.

 But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up".

Nurturing our own lives, while creating a ripple into others' lives through processes of healing and hope, begins as we build up and cultivate our communities.

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